tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5322888705167311755.post8288897989417708607..comments2023-10-29T07:28:23.737-07:00Comments on A Primitive Homestead: Tomato & Cucumber Bed Dug UpA Primitive Homesteadhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06205375008312950661noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5322888705167311755.post-21312477111194082412011-07-27T05:49:51.236-07:002011-07-27T05:49:51.236-07:00Wow. You're going through a lot right now. I...Wow. You're going through a lot right now. I'll be praying for you.Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01520682388731742925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5322888705167311755.post-42066495705817452112011-07-26T19:38:27.096-07:002011-07-26T19:38:27.096-07:00Hi Lara, I'm again, very sorry for what you ar...Hi Lara, I'm again, very sorry for what you are going through. I do think the boundaries book will help you. That way you are not always the giver. At the very least, you can eliminate some of the fuel he is using. <br /><br />Counseling would be critical in your situation. You need an objective person to help you guys. Perhaps you just need to go alone. If even one person gets well, it can change the whole dynamic.<br /><br />Praying for you.<br /><br />xo<br />Donna @ Comin' HomeDonnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00944882257793647449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5322888705167311755.post-63843450959989604282011-07-26T16:34:54.364-07:002011-07-26T16:34:54.364-07:00I believe he is trying to get you to leave your ho...I believe he is trying to get you to leave your home, then he can blame it on you. I agree, do not give him any money. I would first speak with your pastor and make him aware that you two need help. My husband made my life and my children's lives a living hell for a while while he went through a mid life crisis and then after moving out for 3 months wanted to come home. I did not try to contact him at all and the kids would have nothing to do with him because of the way he had treated them. I won't say it is perfect now, but it is much much better and I believe he had to be away to see what he was losing. Are you sure there isn't another woman? Many, many times that is the situation.Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11350507395273876676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5322888705167311755.post-76339240557833017722011-07-26T16:31:06.763-07:002011-07-26T16:31:06.763-07:00So sorry to hear you are dealing with this kind of...So sorry to hear you are dealing with this kind of person. My thoughts are with you and I hope you get out from under this man. A new start with your children may be the answer to your prayers. I know it can be hard financially, but he will have to help support the children and you sound like you are very handy and frugal. I wish you the best of luck. No person should have to live with someone who talks down to them constantly.<br />Donniecockermomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07218421380916216273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5322888705167311755.post-37611910310872772392011-07-26T13:35:28.631-07:002011-07-26T13:35:28.631-07:00Lara, so sorry to hear the troubles you are having...Lara, so sorry to hear the troubles you are having..... continued prayers for you and your family.Pennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06289206422022694413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5322888705167311755.post-7206657511517592172011-07-26T10:06:58.737-07:002011-07-26T10:06:58.737-07:00Lara
My many thoughts & prayers are with you~
...Lara<br />My many thoughts & prayers are with you~<br />TeresaDeppen homestead 1862https://www.blogger.com/profile/00753749390739001434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5322888705167311755.post-53965023045815673362011-07-25T22:04:27.001-07:002011-07-25T22:04:27.001-07:00Lara, The Cranky Crow is right ~ you don't des...Lara, The Cranky Crow is right ~ you don't deserve this and you shouldn't put your children through this either. <br />I hope you find peace in whatever decision you make. <br />Will be thinking about you.<br />Blessings<br />RobinRobin at The Primitive Hutchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03254470125476345405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5322888705167311755.post-33941276333134835842011-07-25T21:42:18.111-07:002011-07-25T21:42:18.111-07:00Ok....I will say now what I kept to myself in my l...Ok....I will say now what I kept to myself in my last comment. Rid yourself of this. Neither you, nor any other human being deserves such treatment. I know it is difficult to leave your home, and children complicate things....but at least seek legal advice - do not give him the money for an attorney - use it yourself. Perhaps there is a way where you can stay in the home and he will be made to leave. Do you have Judicare where you live? (It's a free legal assistance program....) Otherwise, there are several pro bono attorney services available. If that fails, you can always file for a pro se (or "do-it-yourself") divorce - all you need to pay for there are the filing fees (usually less than $100...) You are hurting and hurt - and how can you possibly be the mother and person you need to be when that is going on inside? Sorry if I speak too boldly - I am a Christian - and I believe in "choose thy love; love thy choice" and that too many folk do not work hard enough at marriage these days...but there are times when even God would agree that separate is better I think. If that is not your choice, have you considered counseling through your church? Perhaps your minister/pastor/priest needs to see the full picture here? Wishing you peace, comfort, and resolution....My prayers are with you....RobinTheCrankyCrowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16314851714923955216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5322888705167311755.post-22705091230868484632011-07-25T20:42:42.288-07:002011-07-25T20:42:42.288-07:00Lara ... My prayers are with you & you childre...Lara ... My prayers are with you & you children. I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this. I agree with the other posts ... a husband should not be treating his wife & family like this. There is no excuse. Don't lose faith in God. If you have a woman's shelter in your area, talk with them & ask if they can provide you with the name of a divorce attorney who will base their fee on your income level. Your husband sounds unstable. I hope I've not offended you. Blessings, ShirleeShirleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04117632465099828622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5322888705167311755.post-81170109945275660552011-07-25T20:35:46.043-07:002011-07-25T20:35:46.043-07:00My heart goes out to you and I'm sending hugs....My heart goes out to you and I'm sending hugs. I was so sad when reading this tonight it's not how a marriage should be. I am praying for you. Is there someone you could move in with? You deserve better than this. I will be thinking of you and hoping for the best.<br /><br />Blessings,<br />JillJillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14904921240840944999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5322888705167311755.post-21605832609022206662011-07-25T18:23:48.474-07:002011-07-25T18:23:48.474-07:00I am so sorry to hear about this..I say if he is t...I am so sorry to hear about this..I say if he is treating you or your animals like this..you need to be rid of him..my dad did similar things when we were kids..his dogs were treated like gold and sat at the kitchen table..and we didn't have friends over because of his temper..very embarassing to say the least...we had one dog that would bite us..and he said it was protecting us...by biting us..before he died..he realized that his family was more important to him and loved him..but those dogs could do no wrong...when he died..they got rid of all of them..I was not living in utah any more..or I would have taken some of the dogs..that really made me mad..but what can you do..I hope things work out for you and that you can be happy and healthy again..and that there is no fear..Cat Nap Inn Primitiveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04089694413969995302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5322888705167311755.post-37393326783616120112011-07-25T18:17:26.625-07:002011-07-25T18:17:26.625-07:00How terrible! But if my husband ever talked or act...How terrible! But if my husband ever talked or acted like that toward me it would be see-ya!<br />A support group would be helpful.<br />Be safe!<br />((Hugs))Earlenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02118152338478028396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5322888705167311755.post-82390689948894923892011-07-25T18:04:36.978-07:002011-07-25T18:04:36.978-07:00I am so sorry for all that you are going through a...I am so sorry for all that you are going through at this point in your life.I will say that your husband is a troubled man.God is good and fair ,this is not the way it is supposed to be in a marriage.Do not give up on your faith.It may sound cruel but if this the way your husband is treating you then if he does file for divorce on your birthday then you should consider it a gift.You and your children deserve happiness.Please know that I mean no offense ,I just say it how I see it .If you need to talk then feel free to email me.Big hugs !My thoughts and prayers are with you.Hugs,Jenjennifer768https://www.blogger.com/profile/15725722641743193859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5322888705167311755.post-81206889518926487062011-07-25T17:58:42.581-07:002011-07-25T17:58:42.581-07:00I am sending prayers for you and everyone in your ...I am sending prayers for you and everyone in your home. Keep faith in the Good Lord, your children and yourself. <br />Hugs,<br />TraciTraci~Moon Gypsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01038215074890522885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5322888705167311755.post-36511218970233717532011-07-25T17:46:14.045-07:002011-07-25T17:46:14.045-07:00Your situation is not good. I will be praying for ...Your situation is not good. I will be praying for you. Please do not lose faith in our God! Your husband is not acting as God would want him to. Sounds like he's being the complete opposite of a Godly man. I know you are having a very hard time, and I wish I could do more than just pray. I don't know you, but my heart is with you. <br /><br />JessicaJessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03874960805023276599noreply@blogger.com